In order to understand how you would like to parent your current or future children, you must ask yourself: What are your long-term objectives for your children? What word or phrase comes to mind to describe how you’d like them to turn out? What would you want to them be like once they’ve grown?
The currently popular parenting methods are focused on trying to get kids to do what we say. While following these popular parenting methods, many parents find themselves in a state of continual stress and frequent conflict with their children, resulting in unhappy parents and traumatized and stunted kids.
One problem with just trying to get kids to do what we say is that this may conflict with other, more ambitious goals we have for them. Most parents say that they want their children to be happy, balanced, independent, fulfilled, productive, self-reliant, responsible, functioning, kind, thoughtful, loving, inquisitive, and confident. Few parents would beam at overhearing another adult say about their child: “Boy, that child does everything he’s told and you never hear a peep out of him.” But that is exactly the kind of outcome that popular parenting methods work towards, at the cost of those truly positive qualities.¹
There is another way… peaceful parenting. This website serves as a connection between curious parents and peaceful parenting resources, organized by authors, by media type, and by category or topic, to help you find the information you are most curious about in the format that works best for you.
¹: Adapted from Alfie Kohn’s book, Unconditional Parenting.